Thursday, August 23, 2007

Friends!!...Forever??

I dont know if the world has changed or is it me who has changed or everyone else has changed but nothing seems to be the same anymore. When we are young we are told that friendships last forever. It seemed to be true all this while. Its only now that I feel that all that was farce, a lie that our parents told us just to keep us away from the stark reality and its only now that I feel that friendships do have their expiry date.

I love meeting people and making friends. I have been pretty good at it also. I have so many people whom I can proudly call me friends and some of them have been with me for a really long time. But all of a sudden I feel that I am the only one left with that feeling and all the people whom I considered my friends at some point of time have just moved on. Is it true that friendship doesn't last forever?

I for one never beleived that things change. I am a firm beleiver of that. The only thing that changes is you and the way you see things. The rest of the world continues to be the same. It's said that "Familiarity breeds contempt". I guess that's what is happening to everyone now-a-days.

We see someone, we like them, we become friends with them and spend a lot of time together and then "Kaboom" all of a sudden one day you don't want to be with that person anymore. It's a natural human reaction to loose interest in something once he has got what he wanted. It's true with everything that you want, you'll yearn for a thing only upto the point that you dont get it. Once you have been there and done that, you realize what kind of an idiot you've been all the while.

I don't know why this has to happen but it does happen. It's one of those sad realities of life and no one belie that fact. Though there are some relationships that do last forever. Some relationships just leave an example which others can follow. I had so many friends when I was young, now I hardly even know where each of them are, let alone talk to them.

I guess this is all a byproduct of the fast paced life that we all lead. No one has time for each other. Every one is running a race of their own, if you try and stop someone for a while you will be left behind in the race and so will that person. People come online on messengers but their status remains BUSY, as if they are showing to the world that they do want to talk but they just dont have the time.

I sometimes wonder what has changed. Is it me, is the world or is it everyone else. I know I will never find the answer to this question. Once upon a time I had lots of friends. I still know them, I still remember them. I just hope they remember me too not as an acquaintance but as a friend. This change that I see around me and within me is killing me. I try to forget about it, I try to stop it from bothering me, but it keeps coming back and hits me even harder everytime.

Friends are forever. Friends keep the deepest of secrets and share the saddest of moments. Friends are there when you need them, they are also there when you think you don't need them. Friends never think twice before giving, but never ask you to give anything back in return. Friends never say GOODBYE.

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4 comments:

vishwachetan said...

ki haal paape... senti pe senti diye jaa rahe ho!

Anonymous said...

Familiarity breeds contempt... does absence make the heart go fonder ?.. i think that is the more complete line..
But do all of us wait for absence to see if we miss any of our friends and then ponder if they miss us too.. or ...say truly.. FRIENDS never say good bye..

chethan said...

while reading i felt your feelings so i will never say GOOD BYE

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