Time flies by..We stand still

Seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks and years pass by, but we hardly seem to have moved from where we started our journey called life. It's like being in the middle of the sea, all alone. Nothing seems to move. Everything is so still that you start wondering how long can one survive in such a place.

We don't live in the seconds that go by. In the end what remains with you are only the memories. A large part of your life goes by without you even noticing it. What you do remember is a collection of all those small moments that were really worth living for, moments that are buried so deep in your memory and your heart that you can hardly ever forget them, moments that are so close to you and so special that you refuse to let go of them.

Life is nothing but an assimilation of those small moments. There are times in one's life when nothing special happens to you. Life seems so monotonous and still that you start hating it and everything that's related to it. And then, when you are fed up of hating everything around you, you get even more bored.

In the haste of getting rid of that boredom, you end up doing some really silly things. But the funny part is that when you reflect back on your life it's those silly things that you did in your life are the one's that you remember more fondly than your everyday regular business.

Then is it possible that someone actually goes so far ahead in the future looking for something good to happen to them that they forget all the wonderful moments that they have left behind in their past. Just the thought that someone can completely throw you out of their mind is actually kind of scary. Why does this happen is as big a mystery as is the human brain.

It's said that time and tide stop for none. You can only ride along with them. I sometimes wonder where do we end up if we do choose to ride along with the times rather than fighting them and treading our own path. This question too, along with many other questions might be answered by time itself someday. Others will get lost in translation and be forgotten forever.

Is it simple being Simple?

A lot of our problems arise because we take life to be too complicated. It's like being stuck in quicksand. The more you try to get out the more you sink into it. Similarly, the more you try to complicate your life, the more complex it tends to get. Very few people have the ability to take life as it comes, to lead life in such a simple way that it makes you wonder whether they really are serious about it.

Success surely means you rise higher. It definitely augurs well for you. But then, as you move forward in your life, you do leave others behind, cause if no one gets left behind, no one will ultimately win the race. There are two ways to handle success. There is a complex way where-in you change yourself to a new person in a new role. The other and definitely the tougher way is to remain the same old person that you were and that had lead to your success.

It's not easy to change your attitude towards life overnight. Your personality is a culmination of a lot of events that have happened in your life over a long period of time and it's not easy to let go of everything at once. If at all a change has to come it will come slowly and the most important ingredients in that would have to be your patience, your honesty and your effort.

Life presents you with a new challenge at every instant. It's upto you to face those challenges and tackle them head on or to run away from them. There is no correct way to tackling your problems. It's just that you do what you think is best for you at the moment. This thinking as I have already mentioned cannot be changed overnight, and it takes some doing.

For some people, things are in black and white, right and wrong, true and false. For others there is a shade of grey in everything. The former choose to lead their life with an uncomplicated approach, the latter entangle themselves into a web from which they seldom get out of. What you choose is your wish, but what you wish might not be what you ultimately get.

Strange But, Hmm... True!!!

Have you ever noticed that there is one thing common about all of our lives. It's the fact that none of us are perfectly happy about it. Each one of us wanted something else from our lives. Someone wanted a little more from his life and is sad because he did not get it. Someone else got a little more than they expected and he ruins the fact that he could've gotten a lot more after all. Whatever be the case, this inexplicable dissatisfaction runs like a common thread through all of us.

It's because life never ceases to change as long as you live. Every second that you live, adds something new to the experience that is called life. Just as you are never contended with your life, similarly your life never stops to change. In other words, if there ever comes a day when you are totally contended in all senses, you would practically stop living that very day. Life is a struggle. Struggling is what you are supposed to do all your life.

In the end it's a matter of choice. Considering the fact that no one has a perfect life, you yourself can either choose to be happy or sad about it. What you choose is totally your decision, but remember that in the end you can't put the blame on anyone else but yourself for the decisions you make in your life.

Do you remember the day when you thought you were the happiest person on the face of the earth. It may have been the day you got your first video game, your first salary, your first car, your first kiss, your first child or your first child's marriage. If you do remember that, then you will also remember how different your happiness was at each of those moments. How each moment was quite different from the other. The only fact that remains unquestionable is that you were still happy at each of those points in your life. That in itself denotes how your life changes as you keep going through it.

Probably there will be a day when you would have nothing left to do. When all that you ever wanted in your life will be at your footsteps. Can you then say that you are the happiest person ever. I guess not. Happiness is an abstraction. You can never see it, touch it or smell it. It can't be created with the wealth of the entire universe. That's what is so special about happiness. That's what makes it truly the costliest gift you can give to your parents, friends, family and the world.

So the next time you catch hold of that pessimist, give him a piece of your mind and ask him to stay happy for no one likes to share anyone's sorrows, but everyone wants a piece of the action if you are happy. Happy Living.

Happy Birthday to Me...

Birthdays are wonderful. The best part about them is they come once a year and changes your life like no other day. This is one day when you can live in the past, present and future all at the same time. Once in a year you know you should be happy not because you really see anything different that day from all the other days but because all your near and dear one's want to make you feel special that day.

There was a time when birthdays used to be fun. Birthdays meant parties, getting gifts and having a blast for one day when you are the centre point of all the attention. Remember when you cut the cake how good you felt, you just knew that the first piece of cake had to be for your mom, your dad and your siblings. Can you recall just when exactly and more importantly why did that feeling change to one of embarrassment for you?

Celebrating birthdays was not for you anymore. Maybe the priorities in your life had changed. Maybe you didn't want that attention that people give to you on your birthdays. The phone calls from all the friends and relatives started annoying you. Your mindset and attitude changed a lot from when you were a child who had no ideas about the ways of the world. All that you wanted on your birthday was to be left alone, no friends, no parties, no gifts, no nonsense.

Now you'd rather not have your birthdays at all, forget about celebrating them. I called up one of my friends to wish him happy birthday ( I had been confirming the day from a lot of guys, since I am not too good with dates ). To my surprise that guy was sad about the fact that it was his birthday. I hate to say this but his pessimism rubbed off on me too. Instead of talking about how he was celebrating his birthday all we did was crib about the life we are leading and then discuss how we could get out of this shit.

I have been a victim of this too. I know how my friend must have been feeling that day. Its a really terrible feeling to have more so because its your birthday. You have to smile because your friends are smiling and because they want you to be happy, while inside you are hurting and getting irritated by all the attention that you are getting.

I have tried to reason this behavior a lot but could not find any answers. When you live a life where days come and go without you even realizing when the weekend arrives and when it whizzes past you having this one special day can be really tough on people. Maybe that's one justification to the kind of feeling people get on their birthdays.

The best thing to do would definitely be to be happy and keep a gentle smile on your face all the time just for the sake of your friends and family. There are only some days when you get their undivided attention and its always better to cut the hay while the sun shines.

My idea of a perfect birthday celebration would be to spend quality time with my friends or relatives even if I am super busy that day. I just wouldn't want to be alone that day. There would be many other days that you can choose to be sad on. For this one day I would ask all my friends to be happy just for the heck of it and have a good time. To all my friends I would plead not to overdo anything that you do to make your friend feel special.

I dont mind getting gifts though. I really appreciate the feelings behind them ;) .

Friends!!...Forever??

I dont know if the world has changed or is it me who has changed or everyone else has changed but nothing seems to be the same anymore. When we are young we are told that friendships last forever. It seemed to be true all this while. Its only now that I feel that all that was farce, a lie that our parents told us just to keep us away from the stark reality and its only now that I feel that friendships do have their expiry date.

I love meeting people and making friends. I have been pretty good at it also. I have so many people whom I can proudly call me friends and some of them have been with me for a really long time. But all of a sudden I feel that I am the only one left with that feeling and all the people whom I considered my friends at some point of time have just moved on. Is it true that friendship doesn't last forever?

I for one never beleived that things change. I am a firm beleiver of that. The only thing that changes is you and the way you see things. The rest of the world continues to be the same. It's said that "Familiarity breeds contempt". I guess that's what is happening to everyone now-a-days.

We see someone, we like them, we become friends with them and spend a lot of time together and then "Kaboom" all of a sudden one day you don't want to be with that person anymore. It's a natural human reaction to loose interest in something once he has got what he wanted. It's true with everything that you want, you'll yearn for a thing only upto the point that you dont get it. Once you have been there and done that, you realize what kind of an idiot you've been all the while.

I don't know why this has to happen but it does happen. It's one of those sad realities of life and no one belie that fact. Though there are some relationships that do last forever. Some relationships just leave an example which others can follow. I had so many friends when I was young, now I hardly even know where each of them are, let alone talk to them.

I guess this is all a byproduct of the fast paced life that we all lead. No one has time for each other. Every one is running a race of their own, if you try and stop someone for a while you will be left behind in the race and so will that person. People come online on messengers but their status remains BUSY, as if they are showing to the world that they do want to talk but they just dont have the time.

I sometimes wonder what has changed. Is it me, is the world or is it everyone else. I know I will never find the answer to this question. Once upon a time I had lots of friends. I still know them, I still remember them. I just hope they remember me too not as an acquaintance but as a friend. This change that I see around me and within me is killing me. I try to forget about it, I try to stop it from bothering me, but it keeps coming back and hits me even harder everytime.

Friends are forever. Friends keep the deepest of secrets and share the saddest of moments. Friends are there when you need them, they are also there when you think you don't need them. Friends never think twice before giving, but never ask you to give anything back in return. Friends never say GOODBYE.

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Keep it simple, will ya

There was a time when things were simple. All that you needed to smile was a chocolate from your dad or a nice pudding made for you by your mom. I dont know what has changed. People say things change over a period of time. They say things get complex as you grow old. Sometimes I wonder, if its really the things that change or is it we who change? Do the things get complex or is it just that we stop comprehending the simple pleasures of our life?

Humans have only two natural emotions. That's how God wanted it to be, two simple emotions. We were either supposed to be happy or we were supposed to be sad. There was no room for the highs and the lows. These two simple emotions are best depicted by a baby. It conveys all its feelings just by laughing and crying. Maybe it's the simplicity in that small cute baby that attracts everyone closer to itself.

In the process of growing up I guess we gave up so many things that anything that has still retained it's simplicity amazes us. We wander about restless searching for something all our lives. Something that we are never going to get, but still the search never ends. I guess what we are looking for is peace within rather than peace without.

When you are young, you yearn to grow old. You yearn to get out of the jail that seems your home and roam like a free bird in the world outside the four walls of your living room. Such a shame then that when you finally get what you wanted all your childhood, when you actually get that freedom, what you miss the most is exactly that, your childhood. You die to go back home and sleep like a baby in your king-sized bed, to have that pudding your mom used to make, to help your dad wash the car and to fight with your sibling.

When you are young, you are little bit of everything. You are a scientist, a poet, a singer, an athelete and an artist. I guess growing up is the process of giving up on those things one by one. But there is always that one thing that you always wanted to do but could not. It's because you were not strong enough, because you couldn't stick it out, because when the moment of truth arrived you just ran away from it. I know that it has happened to me, probably this has happened to each and everyone of you out there too.

Simplicity is the essence of excellence. You can do the toughest of jobs if you can just keep things simple. If you can just stick to the basics. Its easier said than done though. Its really easy to loose your way at the crossroads in your life. Its only the few who can really hold their own, who can keep their mind clear, who make it big in their lives.

There was a time when things were simple. When a smile did not cost anything. When the whole world was your backyard. When nothing seemed unattainable. I never beleived that times change. It is we who change. We change each and every moment and every second of our lives and we tend to change everyone else around us too. It's a natural phenomenon and no one can stop it. The only thing that you can do, the only thing that is under your control is to be yourself. After all being yourself is all that you can do.

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Be Happy Sad, Not Sad Sad

There are times when you are happy. Then there are times when you are sad. This is about the times when you are neither of the two. This is about those times when you dont know how you feel. When things happening around you seem so immaterial. When you are "Comfortably Numb" to the world.

You never know when this happens to you or how this happens to you. Therefore you also dont know how you can avoid it or how you can live with it. Its a terrible terrible feeling and you want to get out of it but you are as helpless as a kitten up a tree, not even knowing your right foot from your left.

Time just seems to stand still. You are clueless about what is going on and you can only hope against hope that this feeling just passes away as quickly as it can. The thing that kills you the most is the sympathy and consoling by those who are close to you. You know deep down inside that they are just trying to help but the truth is that on the inside you just get even more irritated and frustrated, both about the fact that you are behaving this way and also about the fact that it might rub off on those trying to cheer you up.

You want to be left alone when you already are the lonliest person on the face of the earth. You dont feel like talking to anyone and you want to scream like you've never screamed before. There is no cure for this, no instant solution that makes you feel high. Mind you, this is not to say that you cannot get high, only that mind has it's own ways of interpreting things and feelings and materialistic things seem to be the least important of them all at that point of time.

Time can heal the biggest of wounds it is said. It could never have been ever more appropriate than in this regard. Whenever you feel this way, the only thing you can do is to let things be and take them as they come. Time as I already told you will stand still as if making fun of your misery and your desperation. In some ways this is a test of your patience and in other ways of your endurance. If you think about it this way, you can overcome this feeling much easier than trying to push yourself over it (you might end up pushing yourself over the edge).

There are times when you are happy. Then there are times when you are sad. This is about those times when you are neither of the two. Time afterall is meant to pass away, it is not meant to stand still. Yes, contrary to the popular belief, it does changes the rate at which it passes away. Sometimes this is excruciatingly slow, other times its really really quick. Remember the fact that in the end its only you who can change your own mind and no one else. It then hinges totally on you, how you choose to live your own life.

I would like everyone to keep smiling at all times (even at the toughest of times). It makes others think what you are upto....Happy living.

Too Late to Handle

Have you ever been in a situation when you thought, "Why the hell didn't I do this earlier"? I bet all of us have. You kept on avoiding doing something saying "I can't do this, what if ..."? and in the rare circumstance that you actually do the thing that you had been avoiding for so long you feel so miserable at having done it so late in the game.

The only way to get over your fears is to chase them away. My dad told me this when I was too young to understand the actual importance of this sentence. It all makes so much sense now. But then all I think now is that it might be too late in the game now? I have been running away from my fears for so long now that I have understood that I would eventually loose this battle, for I am a mere mortal and I cant run forever, but my fear would haunt me as long as I live.

"It was only a fantasy, the wall too high, you cant see...No matter how he tried he could not break free...and the world ate into his brains". Famous lines from a famous song by a very famous band. Such coincidence that this song comes up when I am writing this post. It is such a fitting statement to come up. You have to grab your dreams and make them come true, killing all the if's and but's that come along the way.

I was so scared to talk to this one person all this while that I could not utter a word from my mouth when that person came in front of me. The reason that I was scared was that, this person was so dignified and transparent that I felt really really small (microscopically small) whenever I met that person. All this while I just kept avoiding meeting that person so that I did not have to face that agony anymore, or I made sure I was not in my senses whenever I talked to that person, so that the pain felt a bit less painful.

Then one fine day, I thought what the hell, let's give it a shot, and before I knew I was really good friends with that person and I was really happy at that fact. Then came the realization that "Why the hell did nt I do this earlier" and this just hit me so hard that I came crashing down to the accept the fact what a fool I had been all this while. The icing on the cake to celebrate my misery was the fact that this person was about to leave the town and the country in a few days time. It was getting so much to handle that my life seemed to going on in a fast-forward mode.

There are friendships that last for ages. And then there are those that are flashes in the pan. You cherish the memories of both, for both of them have a special place in your heart. It's tough to forget the nice times you spend with the closest of your friends and it always comes as a shock to you when one of your friends has to leave and you suddenly realize that your life is not going to be the same from now on. I guess that's what life is all about. At the end of it all, you will only be left with the memories, the only thing that will be totally yours and no one else will have any claim on it.

I dream a lot. I dream of going to most wonderful of places in the world, the beaches, the mountains, the smallest of villages and the biggest of cities. I dream of going on long drives, alone in my car, to meet my girl. I dream of amazing impromptu trips with my friends with no planning at all. But the dream that I would like the most to come true is that of meeting a long lost friend in a remote corner of the world where both of us are lonely and we only have each other for company. Until that happens to me I only hope that there exists such a place. I only hope that there is such a friend.

Run Rabbit Run

Growing up is the process of giving up things that you loved to do when you were a kid. As you keep growing up you just give up on those things, one by one. It's not easy growing up. You are not old enough to make a choice of the kind of life that you want to lead and you are not young enough to just stand there and let everything happen in front of you against your wishes.

Sometimes I think that the worst thing that someone can demand from you, is for you to "Grow Up". You would ve heard this retort so many times without actually ever bothering about how bad a retort it actually is. "Grow Up" means that you are being asked to let go of one more habit of your's that actually lets you be a kid, an innocent kid who does nt know about the complexities of a grown up world around him. I wonder sometimes why would anyone want anyone else to grow up. Is it because they themselves have grown old and are feeling miserable about it ?

All your life you will always wish that you could rewind the time and go back into the past to a time when you were young and happy and everything was so good and lovely. But the thing that you never realize is that even if by some miracle you did end up there, you would want the same wish again. The point that one doesn't understand is that one has to be content with what one has and one must also, learn to live in the present.

What most people call a "Rat Race" I like to call it as a "Rabbit Race", not because I like rabbits, but beacause I hate rats. You can see everyone who loves you and wants you to succeed in life shouting out like an ardent fan of your's, "Run Rabbit Run.....dig that hole, forget the sun.....And when at last the work is done, don't sit down, it's time to dig another one". As soon as you learn to walk, you are asked to RUN. At the end, you find that all your life, all you have ever done was to keep running, leaving all the things that you wanted to do as a kid, all your dreams behind.

The race never ends. It just goes on and on and on. People keep joining the race all the time and similarly others keep going out of it. Others just keep running without knowing what are they running for. This all makes no sense at all, but still all of us keep doing it, because if you do not run, that means you are stagnated at one place and no one today can tolerate even a second of stagnation.

Growing up can be tough. You want to do so many things and you seem to have so little time. You have so many dreams but you can't sleep long enough. You have so many friends but you always want a best friend. You have so much to learn but you still end up going to school. You have so many choices to make but none of them is decided by you.

Happiness is a relative term. When you are happy you would want everyone around you to be happy too. That's easier said than done. People, grown-up people, have so many complications in their lives that they hardly remember when to live their life. It seems that they are living their lives for someone else. When you live your life for yourself, you ll understand how easy it is to be happy.

Ever seen children playing around in a park. The last thing on their mind is what will others think about me. I would term that as absolute happiness. It's when you have no care in the world, no worries about anyone else in the world, when you live life for yourself and no one else. All I would like to wish is that we all could stay kids for all our lives, that we never become Rabbits, that we stay happy forever, that we never GROW-UP.

Moving On

As I write this story, in some days I will be completing one year in my current job, which as a matter of fact happens to be my first job. Over the past one year I have learnt a lot of lessons, gained a lot of new friends and lost a few too. Now that the year is about to end, everything that has happened seems so far back in past that it's tough to imagine that it all ever happened once. All that remains with me are the memories and the companionship of those who are the closest to me.

I still remember the day when I first came to this rather unwelcoming city. It was an overwhelming experience, so much so that it was tough to imagine that something like this was happening to me. Slowly and steadily it all began to sink in, and I started 'coming back to life'.

If I had to mention some of the most important things in my life I would certainly keep my friends among them. I just can't seem to live without them. I have always been really dependent on them. I have always had great friends and I have always loved their company. It was only recently that I realized that I am too possessive about my friends and to speak the truth, it came as a shock to me.

It's going to be an year and what I see all around is a lot of discomfort and a lot of movement. This reminds of a very important fact of nature that says that the same kind of entities in an place tend to move away from each other and keep moving away from each other forever. Much like the galaxies that just keep moving away and farther in the universe expanding it along the way. No one seems to be happy with what they are or what they have. I guess one has to be in their position and experience what they do before commenting on something like this, but the fact is that this discomfort is universal. Only thing that differs among everyone is the level of discomfort and more importantly what steps they can take to get rid off it.

While some choose to crib about it all and vent it out and start all over again a few days later, others are much diferent and crib all the time. The remaining handful of people really have the guts to do something out of the ordinary and they really show us the "WAY TO GO". I personally really appreciate such people and dream that someday even I would follow where they have led by example.

What I need now is that this year be full of good things and full of lucky charms for me and all my friends and that I be ready to move on in life without my friends too. I have made all efforts possible to meet each and every one of them for one last time before they embarked on a new journey in their lives and to spend quality time with them while doing so. The fact that I might never meet them ever again compells me to do this and I love doing it too. Some of the best parts of my life till now have been spent with them and those will always remain in the deepest corners of my heart forever. I guess it's tough to accept but things change and they will always continue to do so as long as they exist. I for one, do not like things to change at all and this has been a very dreadful fact that I have never come to accept.

Now that most of my friends are moving on in life, I have nothing more to say but "WISH THEM THE BEST OF LUCK" and hope they succeed in life. I would love to meet them someday somewhere in some distant corner of the country and share a moment with them over a cup of coffee or a glass of beer, whatever suits him/her. But what I would want the most would be for the time to stop so that no one ever had to go anywhere and things remained as beautiful they are forever and ever. Cheers to all my achiever friends, my heart goes out to you.

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Life is fun isn't it. You just can't get enough of it. When you are happy the whole world smiles, or they just seem to be smiling, but who cares as long as you are happy. The worst part is that you know that good things come in small packages whereas the common perception is that "Size does matter". The two conflicting points-of-view almost got me admitted to a psycho-ward.

There was a time when public transport was the way to go. Familiar routes, empty streets and the same old Ticket Collector every day. Ofcourse, the bad part was that you had to wait at the station for a long time for the right "MOVING BOX" to arrive. The good part was that you could get accross the town at the price of peanuts. Well things do change, and so they did and I started to detest public transport for all that I could see in them was the CONS. The crowd, the sweat, the crawling speeds and the same faces everyday. I thought this was not for me and that I had to do something about it, and so I did. I started to patronize the AutoRickshaws.

This small 3-wheeler has the capacity to cut the road anytime and anywhere and anyhow the driver likes and there is no dearth of power in this vehicle either. So you get the excitement and save time too for a little extra burden on your pocket. But I could live with that as long as I liked it. The matter of fact was that I started to hate them too.

I began to see all the bad things about them. Sure, the waiting time had reduced at the stops but still there was a waiting time. Sure, the Rickshaws were omni-present all over the city but not everyone would go where you would want them to. The agony of a stupid AutoDriver turning your offer down as if you had asked him to take you to a place that is below his dignity to enter was getting too much to handle. But above all what annoys you the most is the exhorbitant prices they demand, and in cases where they don't demand anything the Meter does the trick on their behalves.

So finally I decided that I had had enough and that I needed a car. All my life I had been thinking why do people think so much while buying their cars. I used to think, whats the big deal about getting a car. I felt as if buying a car was like buying any other commodity, like soap or soda or something like that, you go to the shop choose what you like and just pay the price and get it home. Now that, after I had myself decided to buy a car, all that became clear as a crystal to me. I understood that it is really a big deal, probably the biggest deal that you will ever do in your life of course after a house deal for sure.

Now that I had decided that i needed a car, I had to take a series of decisions one after the another. The first and the most crucial decision one was which one did I want to buy. I will tell you one thing about cars, if you ask 100 people for their advice on buying a car you will get close to a gazillion answers and everyone will seem to be giving the right advice. You will get so confused that you will actually start to regret the fact that you even thought of buying a car, leave alone asking so many people. But the dream of having your own car will be so attractive that you will get over all those thoughts pretty easily.

After a long, and I mean a really long thought process that included inputs from my room mates, my friends some of them experts in this field and some of my long forgotten relatives I finally decided on which car I was going to buy. It had to be a Mercedes and that too C-Class. I knew that this was a bold decision but I never had a thing for hatchbacks. I was more of a big car type guy and by big I mean really BIG. So the decision in the end was pretty easy and seemed to be logical considering the fact that I had a budget which helped me narrow down on only one or two cars that I actually liked.

I would like to tell you 2 things that you should keep in mind before buying a car. First and the most important, decide your budget. By that I mean, decide the least amount and the maximum amount that you can put in. I am putting so much stress on this because without you having decided on this factor, only one sentence will keep ringing in your mind "Dude, let me stretch a little bit more and get a better car", and beleive me, this, by far is the most horrifying thing that can happen to you. So bettler learn to avoid it and once you have decided on the limits of your budget, you are good to go.

The second most important thing to note is that once you have decided on what car to buy, you should, rather you must become totally deaf. This because you will hear so much criticism from so many people that you will actually think for a moment that you have commited some crime. Still, this is not as tough as it sounds to be, only that its a bit tricky as in how you handle so many people speaking about your decision at the same time, while half of them have nt even seen the car that you are planning to buy and the other half has never sat in one.

In case you survive these two gruelling periods the car that you decided upon is almost half yours. Well I say half because you still have nt paid the money yet, remember. I have already said that a car deal will be amongst the biggest deals of your life and this is bound to affect your economic condition whether you like it or not. Whether you go for a loan or for a lease you will definitely end up having lesser bounty in your hand each month than you used to have previous to buying the car. Still what makes it worth it is the fact that the car is all yours, atleast you have the pleasure of driving a vehicle of your choice and this feeling, beleive me is not surpassed by too many other things in life. I can promise you that the moment the dealer gives you that key in your hand and says that the car is all yours, you are bound to have an emotional breakdown, and thats just the lull before the actual high that you will get once you sit in the car and drive it away from the showroom.

Finally, what's most important to remember is that a car is a car, but your car is "THE CAR". I would recommend all the people who are reading this to actually own a car once in their lifetime and see how it feels like to drive a new baby out of the showroom for the first time onto the streets, to a place will be her territory for the rest of her life. A car is one of the most prized things a man can have and it's very deeply attached to his emotions. I would like to end this with a beautiful thought from one of my friends. It went something like "...a car's a car, it's the feeling that you own that marvellous piece of machinery that is unparalleled..". Happy driving.