Days of My Life

What is darkness but the absence of light,
Seems like I cant get anything without a fight,
Was this just meant to happen, was it in the stars,
Or is all this just a myth, is all this just a farce.

As I walk this journey called life,
wondering what's in store for me next,
There comes a sudden shock to me,
Something that I didn't expect.

Where have all my pals gone,
They were all here just a while ago,
I tried to question everyone around me,
But nobody seemed to know.

Well then I tried making new friends,
Out of past acquaintances and more,
It wasn't as easy as I had thought it to be,
So tough to forget the days of yore.

I hate to say that I've given up now,
But I've decided to let my fate have it's way,
While I try to cling onto the things that I have,
While I try to save them from slipping away.

Time flies by..We stand still

Seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks and years pass by, but we hardly seem to have moved from where we started our journey called life. It's like being in the middle of the sea, all alone. Nothing seems to move. Everything is so still that you start wondering how long can one survive in such a place.

We don't live in the seconds that go by. In the end what remains with you are only the memories. A large part of your life goes by without you even noticing it. What you do remember is a collection of all those small moments that were really worth living for, moments that are buried so deep in your memory and your heart that you can hardly ever forget them, moments that are so close to you and so special that you refuse to let go of them.

Life is nothing but an assimilation of those small moments. There are times in one's life when nothing special happens to you. Life seems so monotonous and still that you start hating it and everything that's related to it. And then, when you are fed up of hating everything around you, you get even more bored.

In the haste of getting rid of that boredom, you end up doing some really silly things. But the funny part is that when you reflect back on your life it's those silly things that you did in your life are the one's that you remember more fondly than your everyday regular business.

Then is it possible that someone actually goes so far ahead in the future looking for something good to happen to them that they forget all the wonderful moments that they have left behind in their past. Just the thought that someone can completely throw you out of their mind is actually kind of scary. Why does this happen is as big a mystery as is the human brain.

It's said that time and tide stop for none. You can only ride along with them. I sometimes wonder where do we end up if we do choose to ride along with the times rather than fighting them and treading our own path. This question too, along with many other questions might be answered by time itself someday. Others will get lost in translation and be forgotten forever.

Is it simple being Simple?

A lot of our problems arise because we take life to be too complicated. It's like being stuck in quicksand. The more you try to get out the more you sink into it. Similarly, the more you try to complicate your life, the more complex it tends to get. Very few people have the ability to take life as it comes, to lead life in such a simple way that it makes you wonder whether they really are serious about it.

Success surely means you rise higher. It definitely augurs well for you. But then, as you move forward in your life, you do leave others behind, cause if no one gets left behind, no one will ultimately win the race. There are two ways to handle success. There is a complex way where-in you change yourself to a new person in a new role. The other and definitely the tougher way is to remain the same old person that you were and that had lead to your success.

It's not easy to change your attitude towards life overnight. Your personality is a culmination of a lot of events that have happened in your life over a long period of time and it's not easy to let go of everything at once. If at all a change has to come it will come slowly and the most important ingredients in that would have to be your patience, your honesty and your effort.

Life presents you with a new challenge at every instant. It's upto you to face those challenges and tackle them head on or to run away from them. There is no correct way to tackling your problems. It's just that you do what you think is best for you at the moment. This thinking as I have already mentioned cannot be changed overnight, and it takes some doing.

For some people, things are in black and white, right and wrong, true and false. For others there is a shade of grey in everything. The former choose to lead their life with an uncomplicated approach, the latter entangle themselves into a web from which they seldom get out of. What you choose is your wish, but what you wish might not be what you ultimately get.

Strange But, Hmm... True!!!

Have you ever noticed that there is one thing common about all of our lives. It's the fact that none of us are perfectly happy about it. Each one of us wanted something else from our lives. Someone wanted a little more from his life and is sad because he did not get it. Someone else got a little more than they expected and he ruins the fact that he could've gotten a lot more after all. Whatever be the case, this inexplicable dissatisfaction runs like a common thread through all of us.

It's because life never ceases to change as long as you live. Every second that you live, adds something new to the experience that is called life. Just as you are never contended with your life, similarly your life never stops to change. In other words, if there ever comes a day when you are totally contended in all senses, you would practically stop living that very day. Life is a struggle. Struggling is what you are supposed to do all your life.

In the end it's a matter of choice. Considering the fact that no one has a perfect life, you yourself can either choose to be happy or sad about it. What you choose is totally your decision, but remember that in the end you can't put the blame on anyone else but yourself for the decisions you make in your life.

Do you remember the day when you thought you were the happiest person on the face of the earth. It may have been the day you got your first video game, your first salary, your first car, your first kiss, your first child or your first child's marriage. If you do remember that, then you will also remember how different your happiness was at each of those moments. How each moment was quite different from the other. The only fact that remains unquestionable is that you were still happy at each of those points in your life. That in itself denotes how your life changes as you keep going through it.

Probably there will be a day when you would have nothing left to do. When all that you ever wanted in your life will be at your footsteps. Can you then say that you are the happiest person ever. I guess not. Happiness is an abstraction. You can never see it, touch it or smell it. It can't be created with the wealth of the entire universe. That's what is so special about happiness. That's what makes it truly the costliest gift you can give to your parents, friends, family and the world.

So the next time you catch hold of that pessimist, give him a piece of your mind and ask him to stay happy for no one likes to share anyone's sorrows, but everyone wants a piece of the action if you are happy. Happy Living.

Happy Birthday to Me...

Birthdays are wonderful. The best part about them is they come once a year and changes your life like no other day. This is one day when you can live in the past, present and future all at the same time. Once in a year you know you should be happy not because you really see anything different that day from all the other days but because all your near and dear one's want to make you feel special that day.

There was a time when birthdays used to be fun. Birthdays meant parties, getting gifts and having a blast for one day when you are the centre point of all the attention. Remember when you cut the cake how good you felt, you just knew that the first piece of cake had to be for your mom, your dad and your siblings. Can you recall just when exactly and more importantly why did that feeling change to one of embarrassment for you?

Celebrating birthdays was not for you anymore. Maybe the priorities in your life had changed. Maybe you didn't want that attention that people give to you on your birthdays. The phone calls from all the friends and relatives started annoying you. Your mindset and attitude changed a lot from when you were a child who had no ideas about the ways of the world. All that you wanted on your birthday was to be left alone, no friends, no parties, no gifts, no nonsense.

Now you'd rather not have your birthdays at all, forget about celebrating them. I called up one of my friends to wish him happy birthday ( I had been confirming the day from a lot of guys, since I am not too good with dates ). To my surprise that guy was sad about the fact that it was his birthday. I hate to say this but his pessimism rubbed off on me too. Instead of talking about how he was celebrating his birthday all we did was crib about the life we are leading and then discuss how we could get out of this shit.

I have been a victim of this too. I know how my friend must have been feeling that day. Its a really terrible feeling to have more so because its your birthday. You have to smile because your friends are smiling and because they want you to be happy, while inside you are hurting and getting irritated by all the attention that you are getting.

I have tried to reason this behavior a lot but could not find any answers. When you live a life where days come and go without you even realizing when the weekend arrives and when it whizzes past you having this one special day can be really tough on people. Maybe that's one justification to the kind of feeling people get on their birthdays.

The best thing to do would definitely be to be happy and keep a gentle smile on your face all the time just for the sake of your friends and family. There are only some days when you get their undivided attention and its always better to cut the hay while the sun shines.

My idea of a perfect birthday celebration would be to spend quality time with my friends or relatives even if I am super busy that day. I just wouldn't want to be alone that day. There would be many other days that you can choose to be sad on. For this one day I would ask all my friends to be happy just for the heck of it and have a good time. To all my friends I would plead not to overdo anything that you do to make your friend feel special.

I dont mind getting gifts though. I really appreciate the feelings behind them ;) .

Friends!!...Forever??

I dont know if the world has changed or is it me who has changed or everyone else has changed but nothing seems to be the same anymore. When we are young we are told that friendships last forever. It seemed to be true all this while. Its only now that I feel that all that was farce, a lie that our parents told us just to keep us away from the stark reality and its only now that I feel that friendships do have their expiry date.

I love meeting people and making friends. I have been pretty good at it also. I have so many people whom I can proudly call me friends and some of them have been with me for a really long time. But all of a sudden I feel that I am the only one left with that feeling and all the people whom I considered my friends at some point of time have just moved on. Is it true that friendship doesn't last forever?

I for one never beleived that things change. I am a firm beleiver of that. The only thing that changes is you and the way you see things. The rest of the world continues to be the same. It's said that "Familiarity breeds contempt". I guess that's what is happening to everyone now-a-days.

We see someone, we like them, we become friends with them and spend a lot of time together and then "Kaboom" all of a sudden one day you don't want to be with that person anymore. It's a natural human reaction to loose interest in something once he has got what he wanted. It's true with everything that you want, you'll yearn for a thing only upto the point that you dont get it. Once you have been there and done that, you realize what kind of an idiot you've been all the while.

I don't know why this has to happen but it does happen. It's one of those sad realities of life and no one belie that fact. Though there are some relationships that do last forever. Some relationships just leave an example which others can follow. I had so many friends when I was young, now I hardly even know where each of them are, let alone talk to them.

I guess this is all a byproduct of the fast paced life that we all lead. No one has time for each other. Every one is running a race of their own, if you try and stop someone for a while you will be left behind in the race and so will that person. People come online on messengers but their status remains BUSY, as if they are showing to the world that they do want to talk but they just dont have the time.

I sometimes wonder what has changed. Is it me, is the world or is it everyone else. I know I will never find the answer to this question. Once upon a time I had lots of friends. I still know them, I still remember them. I just hope they remember me too not as an acquaintance but as a friend. This change that I see around me and within me is killing me. I try to forget about it, I try to stop it from bothering me, but it keeps coming back and hits me even harder everytime.

Friends are forever. Friends keep the deepest of secrets and share the saddest of moments. Friends are there when you need them, they are also there when you think you don't need them. Friends never think twice before giving, but never ask you to give anything back in return. Friends never say GOODBYE.

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Keep it simple, will ya

There was a time when things were simple. All that you needed to smile was a chocolate from your dad or a nice pudding made for you by your mom. I dont know what has changed. People say things change over a period of time. They say things get complex as you grow old. Sometimes I wonder, if its really the things that change or is it we who change? Do the things get complex or is it just that we stop comprehending the simple pleasures of our life?

Humans have only two natural emotions. That's how God wanted it to be, two simple emotions. We were either supposed to be happy or we were supposed to be sad. There was no room for the highs and the lows. These two simple emotions are best depicted by a baby. It conveys all its feelings just by laughing and crying. Maybe it's the simplicity in that small cute baby that attracts everyone closer to itself.

In the process of growing up I guess we gave up so many things that anything that has still retained it's simplicity amazes us. We wander about restless searching for something all our lives. Something that we are never going to get, but still the search never ends. I guess what we are looking for is peace within rather than peace without.

When you are young, you yearn to grow old. You yearn to get out of the jail that seems your home and roam like a free bird in the world outside the four walls of your living room. Such a shame then that when you finally get what you wanted all your childhood, when you actually get that freedom, what you miss the most is exactly that, your childhood. You die to go back home and sleep like a baby in your king-sized bed, to have that pudding your mom used to make, to help your dad wash the car and to fight with your sibling.

When you are young, you are little bit of everything. You are a scientist, a poet, a singer, an athelete and an artist. I guess growing up is the process of giving up on those things one by one. But there is always that one thing that you always wanted to do but could not. It's because you were not strong enough, because you couldn't stick it out, because when the moment of truth arrived you just ran away from it. I know that it has happened to me, probably this has happened to each and everyone of you out there too.

Simplicity is the essence of excellence. You can do the toughest of jobs if you can just keep things simple. If you can just stick to the basics. Its easier said than done though. Its really easy to loose your way at the crossroads in your life. Its only the few who can really hold their own, who can keep their mind clear, who make it big in their lives.

There was a time when things were simple. When a smile did not cost anything. When the whole world was your backyard. When nothing seemed unattainable. I never beleived that times change. It is we who change. We change each and every moment and every second of our lives and we tend to change everyone else around us too. It's a natural phenomenon and no one can stop it. The only thing that you can do, the only thing that is under your control is to be yourself. After all being yourself is all that you can do.

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